When Sh*t Happens
It is a certainty that bad, mad, sad stuff will happen in your life. If you have been living in Your Happy Zone for a while, you will find that the Mad and Hurt stuff only affects your contented/happy feelings adversely for a small amount of time, if at all, because you will recognize it for what it is and not let it change how you are. You know to embrace your feelings without staying attached or invested in whatever bad happenes.
Sometimes, the only way to get through the bad, mad, sad stuff is to refocus your mind. Change your perspective. Cultivate the art of being a Pragmatic Idealist. I learned a long time ago that there is always something to focus on that will give you an inner smile. The person who brought this lesson to me was a friend who had survived a Nazi concentration camp. If she can see the flower in the mud in a place where her friends and family are being murdered and she is being raped, starved, and tortured, then I can do the same, faced with much smaller challenges.
Anger, fear, pain, and hurt are all necessary to your understanding, safety, and growth and are not to be ignored or repressed. If you have truly embraced Pragmatic Idealism, you will find that adjusting your perspective and embracing these emotions without attaching to them is much easier.
I find sadness to be a bit different. I was incredibly sad at the death of my first husband and my unborn child. I still feel the sadness of the loss all these years later, but the sadness is wrapped in a cacoon of love, acceptance, and gratitude that I loved and was loved. I now experience the same sad/happy/grateful feeling when I think of my parents and all those who have graced my life and who have traveled that path before me. Including my beloved pets.
Living in Your Happy Zone needs to become a habit.
When you have the habit of being happy/calm/content, that will be the core that you exist from. It will be how you see the world. You will play in the rain. You will face the bad, mad, sad stuff with aplomb! And when you fully embrace your reality as a Co-Creator there will be less mad/bad stuff in your life.
“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact.
Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.”
Marcus Aurelius
